Today is mine and Alan’s 5 year anniversary!
5 years. We finally feel like we have some time under our belts. As I was thinking about what to post for our Anniversary, I was pretty sure I never wrote our love story. There are tons of details I won’t go into just because I just want this to be one post, but here’s how it went.
Alan and I were both students at BYU when we met. In fact, he lived in an apartment across the street with 3 other roommates. Two of his roommates became mine and my roommate Crystal’s home teachers. And they were the best home teachers! They came over often to say hello, see how we were doing, and brought us treats.
All 4 boys had recently gotten home from serving missions for the LDS church which meant that they were all a year younger than I was. I was 22 and they were all 21. Not that that’s a huge age gap, but I just figured I would always marry someone older than I was so I just thought they would be good friends. We went over to their apartment often as our friendships grew.
Alan was actually the last one I got to know well. He was always gone studying or on a date. He was ready to get married so he was dating lots of girls looking for the right one. I actually had plans to student teach in Washington, DC in the next two semesters so I was ready to head out of Utah and move on to other things. I hadn’t really dated anyone seriously while at BYU so I was ready to try elsewhere.
In May 2009, my roommates and I were asked out on dates by this group of boys and some of their friends. Alan’s roommate Jared had set me up with a BYU football player and Alan asked my roommate Shalisa on the date. The date went well, but I never got a call from the football player…surprise surprise. But soon after, Shalisa told me that she was pretty sure that Alan liked me. I told her that Alan had asked her out so I didn’t think so. She disagreed. So I decided to start paying more attention.
Well she was right! Alan and I started spending lots of time together. We could talk forever and we loved it. I felt like I had always known him. In fact we kissed on our first date (June 13, 2009) and it felt like we had done this before. After that first date we decided to date exclusively.
I could tell he wanted to tell me he loved me, but I felt like it was too fast! Too soon! Even though I kept feeling like I wanted to say it back. But my logical brain needed to catch up to my heart. So I told him not to say it. Finally I let him tell me he loved me and I said it back and I knew when I said it, I really did.
The summer was a whirlwind. Alan and I were both camp counselors so we were gone all week and could really only see each other on weekends. I also went down to California on vacation and as a youth counselor for 3 weeks in July. During that last week I was really having some doubts. We were talking about marriage here and I just wanted to be 100% sure that he was the right one and I just didn’t know for sure. This was the biggest decision of my life and I had to know without a doubt that God approved of this match.
We were talking on the phone and I had all these doubts that I shared with Alan. The conversation wasn’t going well. My phone died and I went to grab my chord. When I plugged it in and called him back I had what you would call a stupor of thought. I couldn’t remember any of the doubts. I couldn’t remember any of the conversation we had just had. I just felt good and a clear mind and I knew then that Alan was the man for me.
So our first official date was in June and we were married in November. It was fast, but it was perfect for us. It needed to happen that way.
We were engaged a week later and married November 20, 2009 for time and all eternity in the Bountiful Utah temple. It was the best day!
And now 5 years later, I couldn’t have picked a better man. Alan is exactly what I needed and wanted. He is and does so many things that I had no idea about until after we were married that are exactly what I wanted and more in a husband. God knew much better than we did and it has worked out perfectly.
I love you Alan Tanner. You are amazing. You are the best support, help, father, husband, leader, worker, and man I have ever known.
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