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My very first pregnancy was a miscarriage. It was devastating and difficult to go through. I had mistakenly announced my pregnancy on social media at only 7 weeks pregnant and weeks after I miscarried, people who I didn’t see often would ask me how the pregnancy was going. They didn’t know I had miscarried and I had to relive the news over and over.
When I had miscarried, my sister-in-law and best friend were also pregnant. All 3 of us were due within a few weeks of each other. I tried to be happy for them that they were still pregnant, but honestly, it was hard. Luckily, a few months later I was able to get pregnant again and had a sweet little girl.
I did have to go through something difficult, but I haven’t had to experience infertility and I know quite a few women who have. And I don’t know what to say to them or how to help them. I want to be supportive, but my situation is so different that I don’t want to make it worse for these women.
How can I help? What can I say? What can I do?
If you’re like me and just don’t know where to start, I have some great articles and resources to share with you.
First a few tips:
– Try to learn about what your friend or family member is going through; offer no answer, but simply a shoulder to cry on.
– Let them vent to you about how they’re feeling on this very difficult road. This means that when they feel at the end of their rope, you need to stay right with them, say something to the effect of “even though I don’t know what you are going through, I am willing to be here for you in any way you may need or want.”
-Unfortunately when it comes to infertility, there are no quick fixes or answers. However difficult this fact may be to cope with, it is made easier with hope, perseverance, and support.
Challenges of living with fertile friends and family members
This is a post gives great advice for those struggling to conceive when everyone around them seems to be getting pregnant. It’s also important for those who are friends with women who are having issues with infertility. It helps you see that they may be pulling away because of the situation and not because of you. Communication is important. Let them know that you love them, but don’t be hurt if they don’t want to come to your baby shower. Be compassionate.
The Delicate line between infertility and friendship
This post has advice to those struggling on how emotional and relationship boundaries can be altered in surprising ways when one half of the friendship duo become pregnant. Again, communication and compassion are important. Be a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on, but don’t offer advice if this isn’t something you’ve experienced. When they are ready to talk to you about it they will.
“People dealing with infertility see things every day in the world that remind them of their plight.” This post has lots of things to say and not say.
When Infertility Strikes a Family Member
This is an article on how infertility might influence behaviors of all generations of families.
The Stork OTC
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Twitter Mini Chat:
And if you would like to participate in a Twitter chat about knowing just what to say or how to best offer support to family or friends experiencing infertility, join me on Tuesday September 22, 2015 at 1pm EST.
Follow the #TheStorkOTC hashtag to track the conversation. You can see the details and RSVP via this Vite: http://vite.io/error/index/thestorkot
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